So, I have always been a relationship girl, I think the longest I have been single is a year? Maybe? Even then I am not sure. If I am not dating someone I am at least talking to somene. I am realizing now that despite the fact that my dating experience has taught me a lot, it isn't necessarily a good thing. I put a lot of myself into relationships, big or small, I can't help but give give give. I get so attached and emotionally invested, and even though I have gotten way better about that the last year or so, deep down I am still searching for my prince. The one guy who won't dissapoint me and who will be there through thick and thin. Blame it on Disney movies, or romantic comedies, but most women have this goal. There is nothing wrong with that, don't get me wrong, but I think that in my past, in an effort to meet the "prince", I settled on some frogs. I don't regret dating anyone that I did, but I regeret putting so much effort, trust, and so much of myself into some of those relationships. I also regret letting them distract me from God. I kissed the frogs, but they just croaked lol. My mind is all over the place, so just to make things clear....I spent too much time worrying about relationships. I tried to make fate happen instead of letting God take care of it. I have a thick skull, I'm stubborn, it took a while, but God finally got through to me and now I am putting my "prince" at the bottom of my priority list. He will fnd me when it is time, until then I need to worry about my relationship with Jesus, my friends, and my future career.
All that being said, I am a creature of habit, and I am sure that I will date sooner than later, but this time around I have a new plan. I am upping my standards. My friend Meagan and I decided that I need a man of God who loves to two step...if he wears levi's and boots that is even cooler. It seems silly, and there are other "criterion" on my list....and realistically, I won't stick to the entire list. But after dating a few people, I really know what I want. And one thing that I have always settled on, but refuse to from now on, is my significant other's religious view. I have dated so many people that are "spiritual" or "christian", but they don't go to church (not that I am the best at it), and more importantly they don't have a RELATIONSHIP with God. I have always wanted to date someone who loves God as much as I do or more, but I just have not really had the opportunity. I can let go of the two stepping cowboy dream, just like I can let go of my Seeley Boothe fantasy :P, but letting go of wanting someone who worships God...No way! I am done kissing frogs. I want to be with someone who helps me grow spiritually, not someone who holds me back or makes me hide my faith in order to prevent conflict....part of turning a new page is changing my patterns. It is time for me to fully trust God to take care of my future, and to hold him highest in my heart. The only man allowed in it besides God and my father, is a man that loves God with all of his heart too. I have now intimidated every single guy that I know lol. The end.
That's cool! Love this blog even more. You know I settled for someone too that I use to date. I didn't even realize it until we were separated by distance. My pastor told me something. I'm not sure where to find it in the Bible, but he said "a man that finds a wife finds a good thing. so there's no need for us (my sis & i whom he was talking to) don't need to be looking because he'll find us. i thought that was interesting so i'm sticking to what he said.
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