So, I don't know about anyone else, but I have noticed that a lot of young women feel that the ratio of "Christian" men to women is a little off. It seems for every one guy, there is a flock of girls to distract him. It also seems to me that many people are under the impression that everyone and their sister is getting married and by 21 if you are not in a relationship or married you are starting to lose a race with time. And last but not least, many women feel that if they are single for a long period of time, there must be something wrong with them..........the funny thing is that those assumptions are C.R.A.P. Total and utter crapola. Now many other women are single and totally happy with it, and to them I give kudos! But for the group of women out there who are feeling and or all of the things I just stated.....It is time to buck up ladies. A man and his interest or lack thereof does not define us at all. We do not need a man to complete us necessarily. Yes, one day it would be nice to settle down and marry a great guy. But right now, if you are single, embrace it. This is your season of singleness. This is the time for you to explore who you are, your interests, what brings you enjoyment, what makes you you, what motivates you, and your dreams and desires. This is also your time to get closer with God and to serve him to your fullest ability. If you are in the college age range like me, when else are you going to have time to get things done and then have free time that is at your complete disposal and no one elses? When you get in a serious relationship all of your time and energy will have to be split between the relationship and everything else in your life. That is not necessarily bad, but it is also something to realize! Your season of singleness is a perfect time to give to others. Many times us women are nurturers, and as such we want to be with someone so that we can take care of them....well, I say why wait until prince charming finally gets his butt over to you! There are so many other people to love on and nurture, and they are right in front of you! Spend your extra time loving on friends, and even strangers who need friends and understanding. The possibilities are endless for you in your time of singleness. This is the time to have the freedom that you may never have again. Enjoy it, love it, and make good use of it!
...So, here is my personal game plan for my "season" of singleness. This is something I have been noticing and planning for the last couple of weeks....I have noticed that in my social circle that I am most involved in, there are a lot of people on the edge who want to be closer to others. I have also noticed that I have been developing an increasingly stronger desire and calling for Evangelism. Wellllll, lucky me, I am at the perfect place in life to focus on those things and more! I don't have as much free time as I would like, but I have enough to make a difference and do something. And, since I have no one to take up my time or distract me, God and his desires for me have my full attention. Instead of wasting my time as a single woman, moping over the fact that no one sees me etc. etc., I am way more interested in pursuing God more, and pursuing friendships with people who really need it. I am going to focus on gaining courage and meeting new people, so that I can show them who Christ is.
It can be challenging at times, but I think that in general women should embrace their independence and run with it. We need to all know how beautiful we all are inside and out, because God made us exactly how we are for a reason. We need to take our beauty and spiritual gifts, and use them to spread God's love and to make the most out of ourselves to that when our seasons end, we are who God wants us to be for him, and for whoever the lucky man is that will marry us one day. Singleness is not a negative thing. NOT.AT.ALL. It is actually one of the most exciting, fulfilling times of any one's life. We just have to look at it the right way, and use it the right way. I for one am excited about this blessed time in my life, no matter how hard it may be at times. Yes, companionship is nice, and at times I miss it....but at the end of the day, I am not ready to end my season and give someone enough time to distract me from serving God and loving him.
(Not to say that relationships are bad, and that they distract....the right relationship is a beautiful journey and a wonderful way to glorify God...I am just not there yet so it isn't something I can write about lol!)
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